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Untied

Lying supine,
the notes drifting gently into my ears,
eyes closed,
my soul caressed, lifted, freed unnoticed from earthly encumbrance.
Wings expanding, flexing, testing,
catching the breeze of floating notes,
turning skyward…
Whoosh!
Upwards, outwards, everywherewards,
expanding, speeding, soaring, accelerating, twisting, turning,
pure expression of being glowing intensely,
trailing a wingtip through Jupiter’s gas clouds,
speeding a hairsbreadth above Saturn’s rings,
teardrops of blissful ecstasy falling onto the sun,
then out and up past the stars, eons flying by, in a second’s passing,
flying alongside icy comets on their way to fiery deaths,
their icy glittering trailing plumes, a witness to their brief existence.
The notes of musical magic resonating in perfect harmony with the tuning fork of my soul,
finally reaching pitch in the glass of my being,
shattering, exploding firework-like into a thousand million pieces of glittering stardust,
falling, returning, drifting down through a peppermint sky,
completely and utterly untied.

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Is it possible to make a decision without emotion when the emotions of close friends or family will be affected?

If the decision was, say, to send a beloved car to the scrapheap, then it would be possible to remove the emotions from the decision, so that personal attachment and sentiment didn’t stop you making the right decision. The car will have no reciprocal emotions.
But when the decision involves the provocation of negative emotions in those close to you, is it possible to make the right decision without involving your own emotions?

If you want to give something great, then you do so knowing that it will make them feel good, but this is also done because you enjoy feeling good about the giving.
If you feel the need to take something valued away knowing that it will make them feel bad, then you won’t want to do the taking as it will also make you feel bad… and you know that it will also be a negative mark against the relationship whether this be short term or long.

18th Oct ‘11 (taken from my personal journal)

One of the myriad aspects of being human is to attach emotions to events in the past (however recent) then to get pulled along with those emotions, with them acting as ties to subsequent events that we have no control over.

I tend to think that animals of a high enough intelligence, also have emotions. In the case of cats (with which I am familiar) it is obvious that they do not attach them to subsequent events. The emotions do not linger for long.
For example: If you constantly pester a cat, it will get angry and lash out momentarily, then it will walk off and settle down elsewhere… but perhaps leaving your hand in shreds! However, after a few moments, you will be able to go up to the cat and treat it softly, and it will respond accordingly.
(…I suppose the cat would also have been responding accordingly before… according to the stimulus of the moment.)
However, now it is no longer in the moment of ‘being pestered / annoyed’; it is now in the moment of being petted and loved. The emotions of the previous moment are not carried through to this later one.

However, if the pestering occurs too often, they will learn to dislike the person doing the pestering and keep out of their way.  So… patterns of behaviour (of the human) are detected, then subsequent patterns of behaviour (of the cat) are employed.
This is a reaction that is deeper than emotion, it is one that is (I like to think) driven by the same universal force that makes electricity look for the ‘path of least resistance’. It is to take the easier course of action.
The cat will take the easiest course of action when faced with a person they dislike by getting up and walking off. They don’t get angry, they simply move on.

What can we learn from this?
Firstly, and perhaps less obviously, we need to accept the fact that we are emotive creatures, so the attempt to remove emotions from events is probably not the best solution for humans.  Maybe it is not even possible!
So, secondly, what we need to do is to learn how to switch off, or ignore, or learn to recognise when we are being affected detrimentally by the negative effects of emotions that are a result of a past event, rather than the events of the current moment… events that are no longer related to the ‘now’.

It could be called ‘Reining in the Emotions’.

(added 24th Oct ’11 – after returning from DKK Winter School – Dave U did his Sandan talk on ‘Whether to fight, or not to fight’ which partially prompted this thought.)

There is another aspect to the human reaction of events.
If one was to be involved in a conflict that has the potential to turn violent, we could choose to just walk away. However, often a person will choose to face up to the aggressor simply because they feel that they are being wronged.

This brings into play an individual’s feeling of right and wrong… and in the case of men, much more so than women, it can be driven by pride and ego. It can be driven by the need to feel ‘big’, or ‘important’, or of gaining or holding onto a position of status.
Part of Dave Urquart’s Sandan talk addressed the need to decide where one’s personal line is with regard when to take action and when to walk away. It went something like the following:

“Do you choose to fight to protect your family?
Do you choose to fight to protect your friends?
Do you choose to fight someone’s who’s been a stupid driver and caused a dangerous accident?
Do you choose to fight because a person won’t give back £10000 borrowed… £1000, £100, £10, £1…?
Do you choose to fight because a person has scratched your car?
Do you choose to fight because someone has spilled your pint?
Do you choose to fight because someone took the last doughnut…?”

What become’s obvious above is that there are some things that are worth fighting for, but there are others that are quite obviously not. There is a line to be crossed.
For each of these questions, a person has to choose for themself. Only individual opinions and ideas can be offered by others; never an answer.

As a parent responsible for the life of another, i.e. their child; one still does not have the right to decide where this line is for their child; only to give good guidance so that they can learn how to decide what is important to them.

Another consideration for any individual is ‘Do I fight a just cause when I know I cannot win…?’ I.e, fighting to defend personal principles;
…if your answer is no, then you would be labelled a ‘coward’… but this is still only the opinion of another.
How much does it matter to you…?

Hmm… I suppose that there are often other ways of fighting, even if it first seems to others that you are taking the cowards way out.